I think there is a lot of emphasis placed on always doing things with your kids nowadays. I’m not very good at sitting still for long periods of time, so keeping them occupied suits me well. But lately if we have a busy week, I like to have an ordinary day to wind down from it and let my kids have the room to be creative.
When I got up today, the first thing my kids asked me was “what are we doing today?” Sometimes I think if we have a lot of busy days, they come to expect it and become more entitled, so I like to offset it with uneventful days too.
Today, I let my kids watch TV, they played in the garden and made a pretend barbecue with flowers, stones, leaves etc. I like to see what games they come up with when I allow them the space to do it. I sat in the garden with them, my writing and a cup of tea. I think it’s good to let your children watch you doing something creative of your own. They need to know you have value beyond serving them snacks sometimes 🙂 They usually show curiosity about what I’m doing when I do write/read/make things in front of them. My daughter usually joins in with an idea of her own. Today they were drawing pictures of some lilies in our garden.
We had to go out for a little while to do errands and we stopped at the pound shop and one shop on our way out. Even if you are trying not to spend too much money, I think it’s good to treat yourself to one pound treats 🙂 I got the girls a couple of canvases to colour and decorate and I got some chocolate and Yankee candles that were on sale.
I think music and candles are important. They make you feel like you’re treating yourself when you don’t have the time to do it, and you can enjoy them whilst occupying your kids. Sometimes the best times I have are when my kids are happily playing (before they inform me of their next fall-out!), I’m listening to music, dreaming up ideas and enjoying the aroma of a new candle, coffee and cooking. My multicoloured hydrangeas make me happy too, with my new unicorn lights 🙂 Sometimes it’s important to just enjoy whatever your version of ordinary is.
Just to announce my book “His Mighty Hand – Half-Light” by Keelan LaForge is available in paperback on Amazon. It is the first part of a trilogy and the story of a long distance relationship and the laws that keep the couple apart. It becomes a story about abuse and the process of brainwashing.
I’m just writing a quick post to let you know that my ebook is now available on Amazon.
“His Mighty Hand – Half-Light” is the first part of a trilogy. It is an unconventional romance and psychological suspense. It will be available in paperback soon too. Another announcement will follow 🙂
I decided to share some of my “writing rejects” with readers of my blog, for possible entertainment and my own catharsis. So, here is a recent non-winning entry 🙂 (on the theme of summer.)
First Scoop of Vanilla
“Mummy, can we get an ice-cream today?” she asked, with hopeful eyes. I looked at the window like a temperature gauge. Expecting the sea to be dashing its usual frothy rage against the rocks, I was surprised. It was a still pool with summer casting its first light on the seascape. My lips changed their typical tune from “it’s too cold today.”
We sat on a wall, it’s paint chipped from months of wild weather. Her little face looked up at mine; rainbow hundreds and thousands glued to her chin with vanilla cream. She looked engrossed, enjoying every lick like the first taste of summer sun’s kiss.
Lists are always something we make in a hurried manner, with a feeling of obligation as we write them. Usually they are reserved for to-do lists of things we don’t want to do: grocery shopping, bills to pay, appointments, reminders of things we resent doing; they just number our responsibilities.
I think they should be transformed into something we do for therapy. There is something soothing about scrawling on paper in a measured way, rather than in a final frenzy to get out the door.
Here is a list of lists you can make just for fun:
- Your favourite moments in the last month.
- Kind things that you have seen people do recently.
- Small things that make you happy.
- Your favourite quotes (look up things that inspire you and make a list to refer back to in a low moment.)
- Ideas of gifts for upcoming birthdays/things you could make for people you know.
- Specific things you want to buy for your home.
- Look up a genre of music you like, write down every band you haven’t heard of and then find out if you like them.
- Your favourite things about each season, eg, marbled autumn leaves, cuttingly-cool Christmas air.
- Things you have done that you are proud of.
- Qualities you admire in people you have met.
- The best ways you have spent a day.
- Movies you want to see by a director you like.
- Things you want to research for fun/skills you want to acquire.
- Good things that have come from the mistakes you have made.
- Records you want to buy.
- Mini goals for the next month (only fun things are allowed.)
- Places nearby that you haven’t visited yet, eg, a bookshop, a nature reserve, a restaurant.
- Search for free local events and make a list of the ones you want to attend.
- The seemingly insignificant moments of your week (eg, a kind word from someone, hearing a good song somewhere, the taste of buttercream, the sound of rain.)
- Your favourite items that you have ever owned.
- Things you could easily live without.
- Ways to simplify your life.
- Things you want to add to your day.
- The most memorable gifts you have received.
- Your favourite scents, sights, etc.
- Your favourite words in the English language.
- Your favourite writers.
- The best books you have read since you were a kid.
- Things to do that don’t involve technology.
- Your favourite places to go for a walk, eg, a stretch of a city street, a pebbled beach.
- The funniest things that have happened to you to date.
- Things you want to save for that you will cherish.
List-making can be really cathartic and emptying your mind on a piece of paper needn’t be done only by necessity. Enjoy listing for relaxation 🙂